Anonymous said: Serious question about LGBT stuff because I don't understand. Lesbian, gay, bisexual, those are all sexual orientations, I get that part. But Trans has nothing to do with sexual orientation at all, so to my brain it's a "one of these things doesn't belong" thing. Please explain this if you can, I know you're knowledgeable.
Again with the alphabet soup, yeah? As far as I’m concerned, the whole LGBTQIAetc etc thing is an attempt to build coalition of people who are in “different from normal, in a sex way.” The nature of our genitalia, what we do or do not do with them, how we feel about it, is the common factor in the shit we catch for this. I KNOW it’s not all about sex, YOU know it’s not all about sex, basically everyone on our own side knows it’s not all about sex, but try telling that to the people who keep giving us shit because we’re not “normal.” Whether it’s a buncha surly drunk guys after the bars close, or the massed ranks of the Republican party, these people are after all of us, because we are… queer.
As far as I’m concerned, “queer” is a much better term, because it defies the limiting categories that I feel have been imposed upon us from outside. LGBT is cool if you’re “gay” or “lesbian,” but it gets iffy around “bisexual” and “trans… whatever iteration of trans we’re using.” There’s no place in that acronym for “bulldagger who occasionally pegs pretty boys,” or “intersexed, raised as a girl, now identifying as gender-fluid.” I think we’d be better off if we stopped trying to cram people into boxes based on what they’re currently wearing or who they have shagged lately. Just adding MORE boxes to the available set is not helping.
As always, it’s not my place to define what other people call themselves. Call yourself a homophile, or a daughter of Bilitis, or a straight guy who sucks dick, do what makes you happy. However, as an umbrella term for “people who catch shit due to things that are nobody’s business but their own,” you can’t top “queer.”