caingotobed:

yolo: What is wrong with Australia?

vivisextion:

caingotobed:

vivisextion:

vivisextion:

Today, Partner-In-Crime told me that after we had a discussion on rape culture, he went off to do some research. In terms of rape statistics globally, Australia is right up there with mostly third world countries, places like Africa, where rape is endemic. Way above other first…

Prevalent is a powerful word and if it [rape] was such a thing, the police would have cracked down on it, especially if you knew about Australian Policies….

 

Rape happens due to a combination of many things, if you really want to educate yourself on the matter I suggest the research of Dr. David Lisak as a foundation and you can network your way across the medical board of psychologists and the like. I’ll start you off with a wiki link! [ x ]

Can’t believe I’m arguing with someone whose page title is “YOLO,” but…

Leaving aside the ad hominem attacks and general bloviating, your argument contradicts itself in a fundamental way.  You cite Lisak as a source of your opinions. However, in that very wiki link, Lisak is cited as saying that 1 in 16 college men will admit to having committed rape, IF it’s not called “rape!” Furthermore, he reports that each of these men has committed, on average, six rapes.  Sounds pretty “prevalent” to me. He even points out that one in six men has been raped, meaning that women are not the only 

In that same, extremely short, wiki page, Lisak is also cited as saying that the justice system commonly discards reports of rape as he-said-s/he-said arguments, “giving a free pass to sexual predators.”

I’m not sure which article you read, YOLO.  Before you change direction & point out that Lisak was writing about the US rather than Australia, let me say that I believe the points are comparable.  Both nations are former British penal colonies with cultures of alcohol abuse and rampant laddism.  Moreover, American lads persistently export their views in every medium available: women are the trophies in action movies, the eye candy in beer commercials; other men need to be dominated and humiliated, or they will dominate and humiliate you.  This profoundly self-centred, dysfunctional view of the entire rest of humanity is a potent contributor to rape culture. Vivi, I believe that “rape culture” is the answer to your question “what is wrong with Australia?”

I don’t usually reblog petitions, but I really, really like wolves, and this doesn’t seem to be on Tumblr yet.

The U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service (FWS) is proposing to remove all Endangered Species Act (ESA) protections for most of the gray wolves across the United States.  The link above will let you sign a petition addressed to US Secretary of the Interior, Sally Jewell, asking her to keep the wolves as a protected species.  Certain states- Idaho, Montana, and Wyoming- removed the protection on wolves in 2011, and since then hunters have killed 1,100 of them.  Why, I do not know. To prove they’re hardasses, possibly.  We just barely started to get proper numbers of wolves back again; please help to keep them from going extinct (some more).

wellesleyunderground:

I first heard that a hate crime* against Muslim students at Wellesley had occurred last weekend. As a Muslim Wellesley alumnus, my anger, frustration and urge to speak out immediately rushed through me. As an American who grew up feeling victimized in the aftermath of the hate expressed…

As odd as I am, I felt supremely safe at Wellesley because of the conscious culture of diversity and acceptance.  There were a few reactionaries while I was there, too: I remember the les/bi/trans group being called a “cancer” and a “fungus” on the college, and having a dorm mate raise concerns that I would try to spy on her in the bathroom (sorry, just not that into you).  The rest of the student body assured me that they didn’t agree with the haters, and so I’d like to reassure the Muslim students and alums in turn.  You belong at Wellesley, and we know that you’re our sisters (unless you turn out to be our brothers, which is OK too).

*Editorial note, for my own peace of mind: the incident involved a Twitter post, not bloodshed, thank goodness.

Tim Wise (via callingoutbigotry)

And for us, White privilege is even if the bomber is White, Black and Brown folk still gotta watch our damn backs.

(via witchsistah)

Hear freakin’ hear.

(via revcleo)

sexworkerproblems:

Find more information on the No Condoms As Evidence In New York campaign happening at the Red Umbrella NYC project by clicking the link!

Please share this!

If carrying condoms is a sign that one is engaged in prostitution, apparently I’m on the game right now.  If you live in the state of New York, please follow the above links and let your representatives know that you don’t approve of hassling sex workers OR sloppy logic.

eximplode:

kursa:

peaceroxi:

redd-fish:

jellyfishery:

Step 1: Take the Political Compass Test

Step 2: Reblog with

• which political box your result falls in
• what you consider your political beliefs to be

Step 3:???

Step 4: Profit!

I am right leaning Activism. Oh boy!

apparently right in-between democratic socialism and anarcho-socialism?

hM

libertarian socialism, right next to anarcho-socialism
huh.

Smack in the middle of Libertarian Socialism… makes sense, since I answered the questions idealistically rather than realistically. It’s a nice theory on paper but try to put it into action, especially on a very large scale, and corruption is inevitable. It’s just human nature.

I remain an anarcho-communist, essentially unchanged since I was fourteen, even through the fall of the Soviet Union, two decades of variable employment, and a sex change.  I vote democratic socialist, though.

youdontneedtofollowme:

NEVER FORGET:

1980 - St Pauls Riots

1981 - Brixton Riots

1981 - Toxteth Riots

1982 - Falklands War

1984 - Miners Strike

1985 - Broadwater Farm Riot

1985 - Battle of Beanfield

Privatisation of British Oil (1982), Gas (1986), Airways (1987),…

1988 - Section 28 stated that “homosexuality [is] a pretended family relationship” and forbade any official mention of the phenomenon that presented it in a positive light.  This, in the middle of the AIDS crisis.

Ding dong the witch is dead, my friends. I don’t care if she was the first female PM, she got her job by being even more violently fascistic than any of the men.

(via dirkpee)

motherjones:

Not the Onion. Not the Onion. Not the Onion. Not the Onion.

Not the Onion. Not the Onion. Not the Onion. Not the Onion.

Not the Onion. Not the Onion. Not the Onion. Not the Onion.

What in the mother of Fuck? What kind of man wants to outlaw blowjobs?! A sad, sad, sick man, that’s what.

I do not have a “shit be cray” tag, but perhaps I should make one, just for this.

(via usbdongle)

iandsharman:

(According to The Green Benches).

I considered putting this under a cut, but, dammit, I think it should be clear just how LONG this list of failure and outright betrayal actually is.

1. Under the Tories homelessness has shot up 31% (here).
2. Tory boasts that they would turn Britain into a “tax haven” have come to pass, at least for the rich (here).
3. Too many of the jobs created under the Tories have been part time (here). Evidence shows that record numbers of those in work want extra hours but cannot get them (here).
4. There are now 600,000 less public sector workers than there was when the Tories came to power (here).
5. The Universal Benefit Payment is forcing families to move into squalid housing, typically defined as the lowest 33% of houses by rental value in an area (here). Given that 46% of private rental homes are deemed sub-standard, this is cruel (ONS).
6. The UK Statistics Authority has rebuked Michael Gove for his consistent misuse of government statistics (here).
7. The Tory Work Programme has delivered just a 2% success rate (here), after they ignored NAO warnings it was a waste of money.
8. The Tories will cut Corporation Tax (profit tax) by 25%, from levels of 28% to 21% (here). This is at the same time as scrapping Child Benefit for some earners and cutting Child Tax Credits (here)
9. The Tories spent a year demonising benefit claimants with their “curtain pulling” stigma, even though £66bn goes unclaimed every Parliament in benefits.
10. The Tories failed to make permanent the Bankers’ Bonus Tax and profiteers in the City of London are still being rewarded, disproportionately, for taking unnecessary risks. 
11. The Tories showed no sympathy for the families suffering from Child Benefit Cuts. One Tory MP labelled mothers complaining about losing Child Benefit as engaging in “fiscal nimbyism” and urged them to live within their means (evidence).
12. The Tories refused to regulate the Fast Food industry. Instead, they asked their nudge unit to consider “fat taxes” on the poor. They even stopped obese people having access to some NHS operations. Unashamed of their deeds, one Tory MP said NHS Patients should pay for their medicines if they contract illnesses through “Lifestyle Choice” (evidence).
13. The Tories launched a war on women, by cutting Tax Credits and accusing feminism of holding back men.
14. The Tories have wasted more than £90 billion of taxpayers’ cash (here).
15. The Tories have increasingly refused Freedom of Information Requests, and have changed the rules to make it easier for an FOI request to be refused (here).
16. The Tories have axed 5,000 Firemen & Firewomen (here).
17. The Tories have axed 28,000 staff in Police Forces throughout the country (here).
18. The Tories have accepted £20 million of donations from people who have directly benefitted from their policies. The blame lies not with the donors, but the Tories for creating unnecessary conflicts of interest by accepting the cash.
19. The Tories have abolished Remploy, and sacked 5,000 disabled workers in one day. Oblivious to the sensitivities of what they were doing, the workers were formally sacked on international day for disabled people (here).
20. The Tories are on course to issue 3 million National Insurance numbers to overseas nationals this parliament, a failing by their own pronouncements, although I welcome our new arrivals (here).
21. The Tories announced scrapped the 50p Rate of Tax, and in doing so have given a tax cut to millionaires (evidence).
22. The Tories admit they will now have to borrow at least £150 billion extra this parliament because of their failed growth. That figure has since grown again (here).
23. The poor treatment of exceptionally talented foreign students has been one of the saddest features of 2012. The revoking of their visas has meant that some of our brightest students have been, de facto, deported (evidence).
24. The plans announced to halt teachers automatic progression through the Main Pay Scale could end up costing teachers up to £10,000. There are real fears among Unions that these plans amount to pay freezes through the back door (evidence).
25. The numbers of workers not even being paid the National Minimum Wage has grown under this government, with women being the worst affected (here).
26. The numbers of homes built under the Tories are at levels lower than any time since the Second World War (here).
27. The numbers applying to go to university have declined 2 years running, this year by 6% alone. These are dangerous times, where aspiration for educational advancement is becoming unfulfilled (here).
28. The number of working households now relying on Housing Benefit to make their rent payments has doubled (here).
29. The number of families on housing waiting lists is now at a record high, after Grant Shapps failed to solve the lack of affordable housing supply (here).
30. The NHS is wasting more money than ever before. Agency Spend among Foundation Trusts has climbed 50%. We are now paying private consultancies hundreds of millions to assist the new CCGs, to audit accounts, and to report on the future viability of NHS Trusts (here).
31. The government have failed to tackle payday loan companies, leaving it to crusading backbench MPs to campaign for (here).
32. The government blamed the poor for being unemployed as unemployment stayed stubbornly above 2.4 million. One Tory MP even accused the unemployed of playing the system and warned of a “rude awakening” as unemployment reached 2.5million (evidence).
33. The average NHS worker has had a real terms pay cut of £1,600 due to George Osborne’s pay freeze (here).
34. Suicide Rates have begun to rise again & the Tories have failed to accurately devise policies to tackle what I call medicine cupboard Britain (here & here).
35. Staff Cuts: 85,000 less people are employed by the state in Health & Social Care. 42,000 less are employed in the actual NHS (here).
36. Rail Fares have risen more than 20% since the Tories came to power (here)
37. Privatisation: £7bn worth of the NHS has been privatised and 90% of it has been handed to a tiny number of companies.
38. Private landlords are recouping a record amount of £42bn a year from tenants, yet the Tories only answer was to cap housing benefit, instead of capping private rents (here).
39. Personal debt continues to rocket while George Osborne shifts the bankers debt from the state to us.
40. Patient Satisfaction: When Labour left office NHS Patient Satisfaction was the highest it had ever been (73%). It has since taken a record slump to (58%). Just over half of people are now happy with what the NHS has to offer. (here)
41. Parents, pupils and teachers did not want academy status for their schools, but Michael Gove has ignored local democracy and forced academisation upon them (evidence).
42. Parents have serious concerns about drafting in 100s of ex-soldiers to teach our children. The army has had a history of bullying, and soldiers have faced severe psychological pressure as a result of a decade of illegal wars. Using these personnel to nurture our children is a step in the wrong direction. (evidence).
43. Our NHS Foundation Trusts are facing increasing economic instability. In total, 7 NHS Trusts face ‘hit squads’. The NAO concluded that PFI was not the main cause. In fact, rising spend on Agency Staff as a result of Lansley’s recruitment freeze was the main reason.
44. Of the top 10 private health companies in the UK, who have all seen their business blossom under the Tories, there have been 100+ Care Quality Commission Inspections on their premises in 2012 which have reported shortcomings at their sites.
45. No 2 local NHS areas in 2012 offer the same health entitlement. North Yorkshire patients, for example, are losing their right to follow up appointments and health visitors as £10m of cuts are being made to local services (here). Children’s rights to expensive cancer drugs now vary from trust to trust (here). 
46. NHS Treatments such as cataracts, hip replacements are no longer available free of charge on the NHS in some parts of England for some patients. In total, 22 Treatments are now restricted.
47. Nearly 7,000 Nurses have been axed under the Tories and thousands more have received redundancy notices.  
48. More than 400 Sure Start Children Centres have now been shut under the Tories, this from a party who promised not only to protect them but to extend them (evidence).
49. £1.3 trillion of damage has been done to economy through lost growth & ballooning debt and misspent money.
50. Michael Gove scrapped EMA that the Institute of Fiscal Studies called Value for Money. His decision was not based upon the deficit since he first sought to scrap it in 2004. (here)
51. Michael Gove has left Britain with the most over-crowded classrooms in Europe (here).
52. Michael Gove has cherry picked the best schools for “converter” academy status, the schools with poorer OFSTED records have been held up in their applications (here) & (here).
53. Michael Gove has actually closed more than 200 schools at a time when class sizes are rising (here).
54. Michael Gove halved the funding on school meals after which Jamie Oliver attacked him for decreasing the quality & health of children’s nutrition (here).
55. Michael Gove cut £860m from the Children & Families budget and used it to bribe schools to switch to academy or free school status (here).
56. Michael Gove cancelled Labour’s plan to roll out free school meals for middle-class families at a time when evidence shows more families are in desperate need of the meals (here).
57. Just 454 Affordable Homes were built a 6 months spell under Grant Shapps, as reported by the ONS in November 2011. This was a 97% decrease (here).
58. Jeremy Hunt has ordered every Primary Care Trust in England to put 3 further chunks of its NHS out to tender under AQP by September 2013. This follows on from the 456 forced tenders this year. In total, 912 pieces of our primary NHS services are being flogged. 
59. Infant mortality rates have started to rise again after a long period of them failing.
60. In Sheffield elderly patients have to pay £5-17 for foot treatment. For a time Sheffield was also charging patients £25 for whiplash tests. In the East of England major health providers are limiting courses of physiotherapy treatment.
61. In each of the 2 years of Tory Rule, private rents have grown by more than 4%.
62. Ian Duncan Smith is forcing public sector workers to accept a 3% tax hike in their pension contributions against their will or any proper consultation.
63. Iain Duncan-Smith penned one of the most heartless letters I have ever read to the family of a suicide victim (here). 
64. The government have been slammed by the leading experts in the Housing Profession who published a Housing Report concluding that the Tories, and in particular Grant Shapps as Housing Minister, were failing tenants.
65. Half of England’s Ambulance Stations are being shut down and sold off. In total, 591 hectares of NHS land is up for sale.
66. Gove now famously refused to discuss Ofqual’s letter of concerns about the E-Bacc in front of the Select Committee. The one-off 3 hour replacement of GCSE English has been labelled dangerous, unequal, unaccountable and unprecedented (evidence).
67. George Osborne signed a record number of PFI deals in his first year in power that will cost the Tax Payer £33bn.
68. George Osborne raised an extra £41bn in taxes in 2011 at a time when the economy was struggling but cut taxes for the rich.
69. Gas Prices are up 31% under the Tories & 40% of families are on the brink of fuel poverty (evidence, evidence).
70. Food Banks have grown every year of a Tory government as Child poverty has also increased. The Tories have responded in various ways from trying to claim this as a success of the Big Society, to denying poverty even exists in the UK.
71. Female rates of redundancy are climbing at a faster rate than men. More than 80%+ of workers losing their job in the NHS are women. Huge wage differentials still exist between men and women (here).
72. Despite violence against women climbing, and domestic abuse jumping 20%, one Tory MP drew parallels between the allegations of sex crimes, and smoking a joint (evidence).
73. Despite having the consultation period required for redundancy notice halving from 90 to 45 days, the Tories persisted with blaming workers for their declining rights. One Tory MP cruelly judged that British Workers were among the ‘Worst idlers’ in the World (evidence).
74. David Cameron has now abolished Equality Impact Assessments thus guaranteeing less equal services for disabled, elderly, LGBT, and BAME voters.
75. Michael Gove cancelled a plan to rebuild 715 crumbling schools thereby ensuring that all Labour’s great advancements in updating our school infrastructure were put on hold (here).
76. 10% of A & E Wards are shutting. Dozens of District General Hospitals are facing downgrade or closure.
77. Chris Skidmore co-authored a book that labelled UK workers among the most “idle” in the world. He called for Unemployment payments to be repayable loans (here), and proposed that benefits such as tax credits and child benefit be capped to just two children (here).
78. Chris Grayling forced an eventual 350,000 young person’s (50,000 of who are disabled)to work unpaid for multi-national firms.
79. Cameron has spent 2 years bullying, mocking & insulting women, disabled & the elderly (evidence).
80. At least 570,000 more households (1.2 million people) were forced into fuel poverty in a single day (here).
81. As a portion of GDP UK state spending in Education is set to fall far behind the USA making us more neo-liberal than the state we love to mock for its laissez-faire approach (here).
82. Andrew Lansley & David Cameron ignored a Tribunal Ruling to publish Risk Register.This Risk Register if published could have saved lives as it would have led to an improved mitigation response to the Tories new NHS impositions.
83. After mucking up the security arrangements for the Olympics, and wasting taxpayers’ money in still paying a company £80 million+ for failure, a Tory MP had the audacity to mock the Olympic Ceremony as Leftie Multi-Cultural Crap (evidence).
84. According to the UK Statistics Authority, the Tory Manifesto Commitment on page 45 has been broken. There has not been a year on year increase in NHS spending (real terms).
85. According to the National Audit Office, Gove has overspent by £1 billion on his Free School & mass academisation experiment. Gove is making up the shortfall by taking £1bn cash from state school children (evidence).
86. A&E Waiting Times at 8 year high. Things have not been this bad since 2004.
87. A proliferation of the same fast food premises in and around schools mark this a sorry year for those trying to improve school food standards (evidence).
88. A Bedroom Tax on families with wounded soldiers, disabled or elderly who require extra space for their treatment is callous.
89. A 20% VAT rate has added 0.7% to inflation that reached 5% in 2011 while wages grew at less than half rate (here). This had a dramatic effect on the misery index.
90. 95 Academy & Free School bosses now earn more than MPs & up to £300,000 a year (evidence, evidence).
91. 74% of GPs say that there has been a reduced entitlement on the NHS this year (here).
92. 600,000 people will go bankrupt under this government (here & here).
93. 250,000 Disabled People have been forced onto Unpaid Workfare with a 2% job success rate (evidence).
94. 2012 will forever be remembered as the year where Academy Bosses salaries accelerated to more than double the pay of the Prime Minister. There are now hundreds of Academy bosses raking in more than Government Ministers earn (evidence).
95. 2012 saw record high Clinical Negligence payouts totalling more than £1.2 billion. This is a £500 million increase than payouts under Labour. Each claim takes on average 1.3 years, so the 2012 payouts were for errors in 2010-11.
96. 25,000 businesses have already gone bust under this government (here).
97. 2 Trusts have been placed in administration with one judged ‘bankrupt’.  A Further Trust was told it was facing bankruptcy
98. 2 NHS Acute Secondary Hospitals are either a) privatised or b) the formal process of franchising has begun.
99. 11,000 Hospital Beds have been axed in 2 years. We now have the lowest number of hospital beds in our NHS in living memory.
100. 10,000 students GCSE English Results were debated in a High Court as Michael Gove oversaw a belated altering of the grade boundaries that unduly punished some students by as much as 2 grades (evidence).

This sounds like some evil necromantic ritual to try to raise the corpse of Margaret Thatcher as their lich-queen.

ETA: Brief Wiki-ing reveals that Thatcher is allegedly not even dead yet. HOW?!  My lich-queen statement stands, though.

(via dirkpee)

The FLSA contains a little known provision that allows certain organizations to pay employees with disabilities less than minimum wage, in some cases just over $1 an hour. The National Federation of the Blind has been trying to change that provision for years with no success. Now, they’re going after Goodwill in hopes that other non-profits will follow suit.

“This is simply unfair, discriminatory, and immoral,” said Anil Lewis with the National Federation of the Blind.

The organization filed a Freedom of Information Act request and obtained Goodwill’s certificate from the U.S. Department of Labor that authorizes special minimum wage rates for workers with disabilities.

“The thing that’s so very frustrating for me is that the reason this whole law exists is because people don’t believe that blind people and people with other disabilities have the capacity to participate in the workforce,” said Lewis.

According to the documents, a deaf employee at a Goodwill location in Hinesville, Georgia makes just $1.44 an hour.

“The irony is that the CEO of Goodwill industries is a blind person. He has benefited from our particular efforts in touting to the world that blind people have capacity to the tune of making over $500,000 a year,” said Lewis. “I don’t know how he reconciles paying other people with disabilities less than minimum wage. To me, that is hypocrisy.”

Goodwill, I am disappointed.  I was counting on you to be better than the Salvation Army.  Is there a petition going around to fix this yet?  I think that this situation is shitty but salvageable, because we can force Goodwill to acknowledge their hypocrisy in a way that religious zealotry will not admit.

(via inkyblacknight)

I have hated Salvation Army bellringers for years.  I dislike repetitive, high-pitched noises, I dislike being accosted in the street, and I dislike their arm-twisting moralising. Since they’ve made it clear that they’d rather see me dead in a ditch than lift a finger to help me, I have utterly ceased to even make the token effort of putting a penny in their pots.  

The extremely awkward thing about the bell ringers, and the thing I hate worst about them, is that they position themselves in doorways and on narrow sidewalks, so you can’t help but interact with them.  I don’t do “social” very well even when not exposed to high-pitched, repetitive noises; add holier-than-thou into the mix, and I’m done.  It’s all I can do to avoid telling them to put their bell where the sun don’t shine. Jess doesn’t like when I get confrontational.  In her view, me ranting on the sidewalk makes me no better than the crazies I’m ranting at.  She has a point.

When confronted with this dilemma at a shopping centre today, I hit upon the perfect solution.  As we walked past the bellringer, I farted.  I had intended to crop-dust him with a silent-but-deadly.  As it turned out, though, I let fly with one that sounded like someone had trodden on a duck, and smelled bad enough to knock a dog off a meat wagon.  Timed it perfectly, just as we passed, leaving a nearly palpable pale-green cloud of stench hovering over the kettle.

Maybe I’ll just eat a lot of beans this holiday season.

bloggin-in-a-tardis:

thepeacockangel:

Gets more shit than stuff that’s not progressive at all? Like if there are gay characters but there aren’t enough, or are a bit stereotypical? Then it gets panned and bashed worse by SJ people than stuff that doesn’t even bother to try?

Like, I…

It’s called “the crisis of representation.”  Nobody expects The Family Circus to be anything but whitebread, so nobody asks how come there’s no gay, mixed-race Puerto Rican characters.  Boondocks, on the other hand, got constant requests for new characters of all sorts.  When there’s only one representation- one comic strip about black kids, one Asian-American comedy, one TV show about lesbians- it gets freighted with the hopes and dreams of the entire demographic, and can’t help but disappoint.  

The obvious antidote is to offer MORE forms of representation, but that’s when the media says “How would we sell more niche market stuff?  Get us some more white guys in here.”

catbountry:

yellowonesdontstop:

gnomesweetgnome:

Can we tumblr bomb this shit?

I’m going to be honest. This is the most difficult online petition to sign. You have to create an account, then wait for a confirmation email and only then can you finally sign it.

But it’s a White House petition (as opposed to say, a Change.org petition) so I don’t know if that’s why it’s so difficult, or…

…if it’s because they want you to give up and say it’s not worth it.

But it is.

It really, truly is.

Please sign.

Oh man yeah creating an account on a website and waiting for an email is some difficult shit.

For fuck’s sake it takes like five goddamned minutes you drama queen come the fuck on.

If a conspiracy theory/delusion of persecution is what some folks need to get them to sign up to make my marriage legal all over the US, well, I guess I can’t complain as long as they DO sign.  Yes, They do not want you to sign a petition published on the internet for all to see.

Reasonable persons, do go sign this.

(via revcleo)

Maine Republican chair suspects voter fraud because black people voted in his state.

He actually said this, and then some. Watch the whole thing.

(via think-progress)

Scuse YOUR cracka ass, just because they’re not invited to your country club doesn’t mean they’re not around.

(via slashseeker)

Yanno what, Pope?  I’m polyamorous AND queer, and you can go shit in your hat and punch it.  My relationships are based on the premise that everyone involved is an adult, and can do what they damn well please; you don’t even HAVE any relationships, never have had, except possibly with unconsenting, underage boys.  That’s not a joke or a baseless accusation- you are known by the company you keep.  

You shut up about my relationships, and I’ll shut up about yours, ‘kay?